Caring for Others

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Scripture:

James 1:27 (ESV)
27 Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world.

Thoughts:

As I read this verse and a few commentaries, I came across the following that I found insightful: Pure and lasting religion is not perfect observance of rules and observances; instead, it is a spirit that pervades our hearts and lives. I found the quote went well with this month’s topic, caring for the elderly and those who may need companionship. James, in his writings, explains that our faith will be seen in our daily life. Orphans and widows, with the elderly also falling into this grouping, often fall into the “poor” class in first-century Israel. Paul, in the writings of 1 Timothy, addresses the care for widows within the church. Widows and the elderly often rely on their family to offer support, but in many cases, that support is nonexistent. That would reduce their options to begging, selling themselves into slavery, or starving. Fast forward to today, we as Christians, i.e. the Church, should step in and help these three groups when their families do not. Remember, when we are in Christ, we are adopted sons and daughters, making us all one family.

What exactly does that look like in 2026?

Romans 12:4–6 (ESV)
4 For as in one body we have many members, and the members do not all have the same function,
5 so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another.
6 Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them:

As believers who are one body in Christ, we need to remember the importance of communication and community. We should not be like the cat who attacks its own tail, who looks at it moving back and forth as if it has a mind of its own, separate from the body who gives it life. We need to strive to be one body with one goal, to serve God. If we, as a people and as a church, were to cut off those who are in need, what would that say about the church to those outside of it?

As I prepare for Lenten service, this subject ties nicely into the topic of “I AM the Vine.” Christ is Lord and we are His workmanship. It is the Father who is the vinedresser, He trims the branches that do not bear fruit. When we do not care for those within the church that are unable to care for themselves, we are inadvertently playing God, attempting to separate the branches from the vine. Christ is the vine that gives life, and when we cut off the least of us, we are attempting to be the vinedresser, trimming the branches that are not bearing fruit. It is important to remember; we are all the branches. We have life because of the vine, and it is for us to produce fruit, not to be the vinedresser. Only God sees how everything ties together, and each of us may be producing fruit that the other person does not know of.

Now, what significance does that have for us? I am not much of a gardener, and if you are like me, you may not normally relate vines and fruit to your day-to-day life. We have a responsibility to aid one another and not be complacent. Do not be lazy with the blessings that God has given you, and in doing so, fail to bless others through asking how they are doing, reaching out to the lonely, visiting the shut-in, etc. Do not turn a blind eye to those in need within your congregation. Do not feign ignorance, saying “I knew she lost her husband months ago, but I did not realize she was in need.” Do not say, “I have been meaning to stop and visit the elderly, but there is only 24 hours in a day.” We all have the same number of hours in the day, so prioritize what God deems important, and not what the world deems important. Live for God, not the world.

Lastly, do not assume others are doing it. When we assume others are helping, it often leads to no one helping. Remember what James tells us later in his book, John 4:17, “So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.” When Proverbs 10:4 tells us, “A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich,” not only is that wisdom for worldly progression, but it also serves as a reminder not to waste all our time and blessings on what is temporary when we should focus on what is eternal. We love because He first loved us. Go forth and be the salt and light of the world.

As we move through this season of Lent toward Easter, many of us are looking forward to the warmth of our church traditions and the joy of family celebrations. Personally, I am so grateful for this community. I often think back to this past Thanksgiving, when Robert and I felt so deeply seen. We were blessed by a family who offered to open their home to us for the holiday, and even by a preteen who reached out just to make sure we weren’t alone and invited us to his family’s holiday table. That feeling of being “looked after” is one of the greatest gifts the body of Christ can offer. We already had plans for the holiday, but it was a blessing to know that people were thinking of us. This is an example of the beautiful spirit of compassion in our church. Yet James 1:27 nudges us to look even closer – to the places that are often quiet and the people who might be suffering in silence.

Therefore, it made me think about the other members of the church and the hope that they were also being looked after throughout the year and during the holiday season. There are many among us who, like Robert and me, don’t have a large circle of family nearby. They may have no parents, kids, or siblings to visit and lean on. There are older people in our congregation who may be all alone throughout the week and the holidays because they are widowed and their kids are far away. There are also people who are silently hurting because they do not want to ask for favors or inconvenience people, because they are unable to drive at night, or they are just too sick without the ability to go places on their own. While others are in nursing homes, surrounded by people, but utterly alone for the friends and family they shared their whole life with. Is it not Psalm 71:9 that states, “Do not cast me away when I am old; do not forsake me when my strength is gone?”

It is James in 1:27 that started me off on this line of thinking. It is our job as a church body to care for the church family when needed. This does not mean that one person must do it all, but as a church family, we should make sure that all our members who are in need are taken care of whether they currently show up every day or are homebound. In fact, 1 Corinthians 12:25-27 explains that all the parts of the church body should care for one another equally. We should be able to meet the body’s needs if we all help where we can, when we can.

It is crushing to think that a brother or sister might miss a time of fellowship simply because they live fifteen minutes away and feel like a burden. As Romans 15:1-2 states, “We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves. Each of us should please our neighbors for their good, to build them up.”

Loneliness and the loss of independence do not follow a calendar and can be very hurtful to people as they get older. This is especially true if they were once active in a great body like our church. It is just important that we do not leave them behind and forget about them, because we believe their family is there to help them, that they will ask for help, or that they are not around.

You do not have to visit everyone, but perhaps your gift could be to occasionally drive someone, make a phone call, send a text, send an email, or write a letter. When everyone uses their unique gifts, our church can excel.

I will end with 1 Timothy 5:4, which explains that we need to take care of our own parents and grandparents first. But our church body is also a family. After you take care of your house, I invite you to look outward. Taking care of others is a magnificent way to glorify God year-round.

Thoughts for this week:

Is there someone whose face you haven’t seen in the pews lately?
Who in our church family might be waiting for a “nudge” of connection today?
How can we make it easier for those who feel like an “inconvenience” to ask for help?

God Bless.